Being a new mother is the most rewarding job you will ever have but just like with any new role, it comes with a lot of pressures. If you have just had a baby and you already have a toddler, then you have the benefit of already going through the experience of taking care of a baby. However, juggling a new baby and toddler can also bring with it a whole new set of problems that you will need to learn to cope with in order to ensure both you and your children are healthy.
One of the most important things that you can do is accept help from your support system. Whether from the father of your children, your own parents or friends, getting help from those closest to you can make a huge difference to how well you cope.
Let’s look through some of the things that you can do to ensure you enjoy being a mum to multiple children:
- Make sure you take some time for yourself each day, even if it is only 30 minutes. This can be spent doing anything from taking a nap to having a bath and you can choose to do it when your children are sleeping or when you get someone else to take care of them.
- Don’t be afraid to get your toddler involved when it comes to caring for your new baby. This also helps to stop problems with jealousy and can help the children to bond.
- Learn that it is ok to split them up, so that you don’t have to look after two children all day. Get a friend to watch your baby while you play a game with your toddler or walk in the park with your baby while your mum entertains your toddler.
Get Some Sleep
Sleep deprivation can cause a lot of problems for a new mum coping with multiple children, so try to get some sleep whenever your children sleep. If your toddler goes to nursery let yourself nap with your baby and forget about regular household chores for a few months such as immediately emptying the dishwasher or making the bed each morning as this will help to reduce some pressure.
Eating healthily will also help you to cope better, as it will give you more energy to deal with the more frustrating times.
Learn how to breathe when everything gets on top of you with some simple breathing exercises. For example, if your baby won’t take to your nipple for feeding at the same time your toddler wakes up from a nap and wants to play. Multitasking will soon become second nature for mums with multiple children and dealing with the new routine in the first few weeks of having a baby will be the most challenging. Remember that you will find a new routine, your toddler and baby will also settle in and when it all gets too much, take a deep breath and find some enjoyment in the tougher times.