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Learning to Say Goodbye to Grief

Saying goodbye is hard. Sometimes not having a chance to say goodbye is devastating.

The loss of a friend or loved one can be life shattering. Grief counseling can help you pick up those pieces and thrive as you carry on towards the future. In the face of a devastating or unexpected loss of a friend, family member, or loved-one, professional help can get you get over the hurdles of grief that can stagnate your growth. Death isn’t the only thing that can separate us from those we care about. Life events such as divorces, long-distance moves, or even job changes and school graduations can leave us feeling like we have a whole inside ourselves. If you are feeling isolated and lacking a community of support, grief counseling can be an essential way to pick yourself up. Most of us are not prepared to deal with loss. We are uncertain about what feelings are appropriate, what reactions we should have, and what kind of face we should put on to face the world. Even though loss is an unavoidable part of life, it is a complicated journey that none of us seem to have gotten a guidebook to navigating. A grief counselor can act a compass as we face the trial of grief.

Let’s face it, life is full of constant changes and losses, a grief councilor can give you specific tools to cope with a loss and carry on in a positive way. Let’s take a look at how professional help can help turn your situation around.

Getting Your Emotions in Check
One of the most challenging issues with grief is being able to pin down your emotions. Grief ignites different responses from different people. Common symptoms include anxiety, anger, relief, loneliness, or depression. Simply identifying why you are acting out in drastic ways or retreating into solitude or experiencing anxiety can be a critical part of formulating an attack plan for treating your grief. The symptoms of grief can mask themselves under many different ways. Sometimes we can even feel guilty because of a lack of obvious sadness in the face of a drastic loss, not realizing that is in and of itself a common symptom.

A Safe Place to Explore Your Feelings
It can be hard to tell the people in our life that we are suffering. We may fear judgement, rejection, or worse, not being believed. Harder yet, it can be impossible to explain our feelings to other people when we still don’t understand what exactly we are our feeling ourselves. A grief counselor can provide you with a safe and confidential place to explore your feelings. A counselor understands the process of grief and is trained to help identify and work through your feelings in a constructive way. Having a place to access your feeling can give you the empowerment to finally confront the terror and unease that has been plaguing your mind as you cope with a loss.

When you can’t find the words to say goodbye on your own, let a grief counselor help you find the way to cope so that your life doesn’t stop in one place.

This blog post has been provided on behalf of Allen Fraser MSW. With over 30 years experience as a social worker Allen can help you learn to deal with your grief. Visit Allen’s website today to schedule an appointment or to learn more about grief counselling.


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